Dusky, I too would like to hear what you uncovered about yourself. It may help me in my journey as well as I think things like that are good to talk about. Even if you don't want to let it out here, I listen really well!
I think we are all on track when we are attempting to look inside ourselves to find out why we over eat. Sure it tastes good, but food tastes good to most people. But not all of us over eat. So there has to be some psychological connection or payoff that we are getting when we over eat. I have lots of theories about my own reasons. I really don't have anything concrete though. And Lisa, I don't think they are excuses. I think they are coping mechanisms that have helped us get through something (maybe painful) in the past. It was effective for us so we used it again... and again... until it became ingrained in us. I think it is important that we identify those things so we can actively make changes.
Laura, there are times when I REALLY don't want to go to the gym either & the hard workout seems even harder. At those times, I actively make me parent myself. I have to do this because it is best for me. I can acknowledge that I dont' want to or don't feel like it, but I HAVE to do it. Like going to the doctor for a shot. For me, working out less hard or skipping a workout is not a choice. I know myself. If I do that, the excuses to not work out will become more frequent until I'm not doing it at all. Or if I dont' work out hard, it's the same thing. I can make excuses for that too. No excuses for me. Like Nike: Just do it!
When people ask me how I lost the weight & I tell them, they start making excuses for why this won't work for them & why they can't go to the gym. I just simply tell them "I had no choice." And that is truly how I feel about it. My life was on the line & I had to make changes.
It's so awesome to have a thread like this to be able to talk about these issues. Thank you Dusky for starting this! Your the bomb!
Hi Ladies! Emails were sent if you would like to delete your email addies from your posts . . .
I'll catch up on your posts this evening, but I just gotta say that I am so proud of all of us for tackling our demons. It is not easy to do and it is scary to open the doors that we have cemented shut for so long.
Hugs to all of you. We can do this!!
How the heck do I delte my email address from my post? I didn't know I could edit any post after it was posted.
You're welcome Dawn!!!!!!
And about to print out the final sheet for the 12 week contest.
Hi Susan, I can understand where you're coming from about thinking you're making excuses. I feel something similar when anything is brought up from my past that has to do with the way I was treated by family members. I have this thought, “It happened, can't change it, don't dwell on it, let's move on.” And that's all well and good to not get trapped in the past, but what I've come to find out is that my past has shaped some of my core beliefs and the way I respond to things. So, even though I don't dwell on the past, I do look at how I can change my core belief to allow me to continue with a healthier lifestyle because I gotta tell you, if I continue to believe some of the things that I believe, I'll never get anywhere. I'll constantly self sabotage . . . I will continually set myself up for failure. The real things that happened in my past have shaped my future. I'm not using them as an excuse to keep me down, I'm whittling away at them and they are losing their power over me.
I wish you the best in this regard as well.
Hey Laura . . . looking at the scale day in and day out is frustrating beyond belief, that's for sure, especially when the numbers are being stubborn. May I make a suggestion? STEP AWAY FROM THE SCALE! Seriously, how about putting the scale in the closet for a couple of weeks or a month. Just get out of the habit of stepping on it everyday. I know, easier said than done. I weighed myself every day for decades, but now I have such total confidence in the plan I'm on and the work that I'm doing that I don't need the scale to measure by. Yeah, I'm still going to weigh in once a week at the gym, but that's about it . . . I've finally realized it's not about the number – focusing on the number keeps me from focusing on making this a lifestyle change. It's all about morphing into a different type of lifestyle and not about “eating like an 8 year old” for the rest of my life.
Wow, Lisa . . . I didn't realize I was forcing you to address your issues, sweetie. I'm sorry if I made you feel that way. When I see you on Sunday (tomorrow), maybe we can talk about it . . . What you said reminds me about an old joke . . .
Q: How many psychiatrists does it take to change a light bulb?
A: Only one, but the light bulb has to want to change.
We'll talk . . . see what comes of it . . .
Tami, look under your avatar . . . the then all the way to the bottom of the post you want to edit or delete. You will see the words, flag, edit, delete . . . and there ya go!
JEFFFFFF! Whoooo Hooo! I saw the stats on your door Friday evening. Looks like it's official folks! I won the biggest loser challenge at the gym! I would like my $250,000 in small unmarked bills, please. I'll see you on Monday morning. I'm coming in for my session with Lindsey around 10:30 am. I'm curious as to what my weigh in will be this week since I relaxed a bit on the nutrition. I'm still eating within my caloric range, but I'm broadening out in my food choices now.
C1 – W2D6
After reflecting on this past week I can honestly say that I don't feel like I have such a tight grip on the reigns of my program. I'm not sure if that's a good thing or a bad . . . no . . . it's a good thing. I'm still exercising, but have backed off a bit . . . I'm still within my caloric range, although on the higher end and am eating more of a variety of things now . . . the challenge was great and it showed me what I could do when I set my mind to it, but keeping such tight control over an extended period of time is unrealistic. A 12 week block of time isn't so bad, but I have to ask myself if I can keep such a tight grip on my nutrition and exercise plan for the rest of my life. The realistic answer is no, I could not. BUT! The 12 week challenge has made it possible for me to see that I CAN make healthier choices and that I CAN do the work day in and day out as long as I'm on that ruler . . . somewhere . . .
They are having a gymnastics competition downtown indy this weekend and I was at one of the hotels down there this morning. I was fascinated by this one woman . . . her daughter had a competition this evening and was wanted one of the massage therapists on staff to work on the girl beforehand because her back was hurting her. Well, the mother was very fit herself, but her arm was in a pretty elaborate sling. Come to find out that she had some major reconstruction done on her shoulder two weeks prior.
Well, as I was leaving the hotel, I glanced over to the weight room and there was the mother walking on the treadmill at a pretty nice clip . . . I thought to myself, “how many people would use their injury/surgery as an excuse to take a break from gym?” But here she was, obviously still in pain . . . obviously far from home (or else why was she staying at a hotel downtown indy) . . . and yet, she was still holding onto her healthy lifestyle habits. I gotta say, I was greatly encouraged by this.
Dusky, sounds like you are making some huge strides in your self awareness. Good for you! I think we can learn so much from the past as long as we look at it in the proper perspective. And it certainly seems that is exactly what you are doing. I think this whole thread is making a lot of us look at issues we have relating to food, body image, etc. But I don't think that is a bad thing! I think when we look at these things & deal with them, it allows us to move on with our lives.
Congrats on winning the biggest loser challenge! That is awesome & I never had a doubt that you would succeed.
Go0o0o0o0 Duskyyyyy congrats gilry..
Weigh-in today. Down another 4 pounds. That's a total of 62.5 pounds by the home scale from my highest. I can hardly wait to get my new pretty shinny ring! Only 37.5 more pounds to go!
Work out with trainer Lindsey went well today. It is too funny how quickly my triceps fail. One rep can be perfectly smooth, but then the next rep I simply get "stuck". Makes me want to laugh when it happens. I know I'm going to be feeling it in a couple of days, that's for sure.
It's awfully quiet in here . I hope everyone is doing well.
I am so happy things are going well for you Miss Dusky!! I know what you mean when you say your triceps fail. I've been working on arms with my trainer too. Boy do I have a ways to go. I look forward to the day you post your picture with that beautiful ring!! What a wonderful reward!
Wow! I love your goal setting and positive attitude. I wish you the best of luck. I just joined the gym end of 2011 and I'm struggling so far. I have 135 lbs to lose to return to my "normal" weight. I picked up all this extra weight since 2006. I've never been heavy my entire life so I'm mortified with how this feels and the struggle I'm having getting ot off. The sharing of your plan caught my eye and it gives me a good feeling just knowing there's someone else trying to lose a considerable amount of weight and who has a plan to do it. I feel like such a failure. I've tried so hard and lost up to 40 lbs at times but alwaays gained it back.I need help. Everyone I've seen is wanting to lose 20 lbs or even 40 or 50 lbs. When you start talking over 100, it's a whole other ballgame. I feel really good about what you're doing and your plan. I know you'll make it.
Triceps seem to be a hard muscle for us ladies to strengthen for some reason. I'm in the same boat. And I have a lot of movement on the back of my upper arms I would have to get rid of. I'm hoping I can firm some of that up. I never wear sleeveless tops because of that. I hate it!
Janie, welcome aboard! I am sure you will get a lot of support here from these boards. They are informative & educational. There is always someone who has been through something similar to your own situation.