depression & motivation ?

kmoniz-bray88 member since Dec '11

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Hi everyone, I was wondering if there are any members out there who are depressed (either clinically or not) who are trying to loose the weight, stay healthy and get motivated?

I struggle with depression, I have a hard time with this. There are times when I feel so motivated to move forward, then the next I feel like it's not worth it. I might as well stay the way that I am because I don't like myself, or that others don't like me.

I'm sure almost everyone feels this way. But why do we just stay in our slump? Stay lousy, lazy and feel so awful about ourselves when we can just get up and move on with our life? We know we will be happy with our results and feel so much better and healthier. Why don't we just DO it?

Is there anyone out there that struggles with the depression and moves forward? If so, what's your secret?

Thanks!

posted : 12/31/2011 at 1:12 PM

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I have just be upped to 3 different meds for depression. I cant speak for others but my depression has gotten worse as I have lost weight then better. However, even though it caused me to plateau for about 6 months over summer and almost stopped be over the holidays I still get up and try to get to the gym daily. I was going twice daily up to last week to try and hit 200 lost before my trainer moved away. That in and of itself made my depression worse. She was my major support person. However, cardio help me feel a bit better sometimes and although at times I feel like giving up, going back to mac and cheese 3 times a day and gaining it all back, I just keep going forward one day at a time. Just one day, then the next, then the next. Thats how i try and deal with it. Oh plus Im trying to get into group therapy in the New Year as well. I know its not the best advice but its how I deal with mine. Cheers Rob

posted : 12/31/2011 at 2:16 PM

kmoniz-bray88 member since Dec'11

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Thanks for the reply Rob. I've viewed your other posts, and you have come such a long way...that's so wonderful. Very proud!

I sure hope the group therapy helps, keep me updated on that. You must be very strong to just go one day at a time. Do your meds keep your depression at bay most of the time though?

See, I have alot of past family history with brainwashing and living with an abusive mother, that my self esteem isn't in existence. And I left that environment last year, and when I did I lost all my health insurance (which by the way I've had 7 back surgeries and now I can't see my doctor or get my pain meds because I can't afford to go)So I can't go see a doctor for my depression. It keeps getting worse too :/

Do you have a lot of friends and family that keep you motivated? I'm sure that helps. I don't have many friends, and no family. My boyfriend says he supports me, but I'm over here eating a salad, and he's eating popcorn chicken and cheese sticks, and tells me i'm doing great. It makes it harder....

Sorry for spilling my guts...didn't mean for it to get like that. But, I really do appreciate your advice, and I think this community is great.

posted : 12/31/2011 at 2:35 PM

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Hi Kalani: I have almost no friends here. I moved here when my dad died and was more or less housebound till a year ago and even now just go to the grocery store and gym and thats about all. My trainer was my big support till she moved away a week ago. I just have my mom in town who I see once a week so Im pretty much on my own now for motivation. I will still e-mail my trainer. I have not trained much with her since last spring which is when my depression got worse and I stalled. Could not afford her and hurt my shoulder and kind of dropped off to just 2 or 3 times a week at the gym for most of the summer. In the fall I got some drive back and do it 6 times a week.

Depression is a hard thing to work with. I had bad side effects from 2, felt nothing on 3 others. One just help me sleep, one helps a tiny bit with S.A.D. (west coast rain) and the third one I restarted taking last week should help a bit but I only take a low low dose because I get side effects at higher ones. So nothing works well for me.

Cardio helps with the endorpines and good diet, low sugar, low caffeine help as well.

Im hoping group therapy helps once I get into it. Not sure when they will have an opening.

I would prefer not taking any as I dont like drugs but for now I do.

Cheers Rob

posted : 12/31/2011 at 9:55 PM

zduddy member since Mar'11

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I truely feel you can not defeat your depression until you truley want to beat it.

I suffered from depression for many years,although I kept up apperances I was broken inside,did not know what had become of me. I tried church,therapy,meds and a host of other tactics that did not help. Depression is a very difficult condition to understand if you have little or no experience with it,many people use the word to sum up a disapointing day or a trivial let down.

Please stay focused on the positives in your life,learn to reprogram the way you feel and how you respond to situations. If your thoughts before bed are of depression and your first thoughts when you wake up are of depression........your body gets use to this cycle and will continue on the same path. I looked at my depression as compared to a broken leg,I knew with the proper out look and treatment it would heal,heal back to the point where it is just as good as it was before I broke it.

You can beat it!!!!

Stay strong and remember "Nobody can take your self esteem unless you let them".

posted : 12/31/2011 at 11:48 PM

zduddy member since Mar'11

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I truely feel you can not defeat your depression until you truley want to beat it.

I suffered from depression for many years,although I kept up apperances I was broken inside,did not know what had become of me. I tried church,therapy,meds and a host of other tactics that did not help. Depression is a very difficult condition to understand if you have little or no experience with it,many people use the word to sum up a disapointing day or a trivial let down.

Please stay focused on the positives in your life,learn to reprogram the way you feel and how you respond to situations. If your thoughts before bed are of depression and your first thoughts when you wake up are of depression........your body gets use to this cycle and will continue on the same path. I looked at my depression as compared to a broken leg,I knew with the proper out look and treatment it would heal,heal back to the point where it is just as good as it was before I broke it.

You can beat it!!!!

Stay strong and remember "Nobody can take your self esteem unless you let them".

posted : 12/31/2011 at 11:48 PM

sarahk11 member since Mar'11

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kmoniz-

I do not currently struggle with depression, but I have in the past. I had a devastating loss about 5 years ago and spent a year grieving and not having motivation to do anything other than the bare minimum.

I found that what REALLY helped me was getting the support that I needed. I found a couple of support groups online for women that had similar losses to mine (I lost a set of twins at birth), and I found that leaning on them really helped me deal with day to day stress and depression. A few good friends who really knew how to listen were my supports too, as well as my husband and our pastor, and my parents.

Support is really key when it comes to depression. If you have insurance it would be very wise to talk to your GP about a referral (or maybe you can just go without a referral) to a counselor. A counselor can help you with cognitive-behavioral strategies to work on any thinking patterns that might need to be changed. A counselor may also recommend you to a support group, those are also REALLY helpful for gaining support and learning about how to do deal with depression. Then of course there are medications that can enhance therapeutic work.

Sarah

posted : 1/1/2012 at 7:26 AM

Alicia Melvin member since Dec'10

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I too am going through with my daily chronic depression. Sometimes my prozac... hell all the time it doesn't cut it. Lately what keeps me going is the support on here and prepacking my gym bag ahead of time. That small moment when you have clarity and can do something. Pre pack and put it in your car. That way when I want to go but have no motivation I just keep repeating "You just need to drive there. You just need to drive there. You did all the work already. You just need to get there. " Then I try to shut my brain off. It feels like sleep walking most of the time, but at least once I get to the gym I exercise.

I feel great after a workout but it doesn't last long. I've been sleeping a lot lately so what I do when I'm in those slumps is I eat healthy. When I know I'm not going to workout, I eat well that day. It makes you feel like you accomplished something. I also cook/bake. Even if I'm not hungry I will bake something. It keeps me moving and on my feet and you don't have to think all that much.

It's seriously just taking it one step at a time. Little goals and options. Have that friend that bugs you over and over to go to the gym. I also changed my chair near my computer to a yoga ball. I move around on it. Same with watching tv. I may be in a slump.. but you can't help but play on them when you are sitting on one.

<3 I'd love to be your friend on here though. Don't mind having a buddy who understands how crappy depression can be.

posted : 1/12/2012 at 9:24 AM

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Yep depression sucks! I feel worse now than I did when I was 200 lbs heavier and its not suppose to be like that.

posted : 1/12/2012 at 10:47 PM

maryhitt member since Dec'09

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My 22 year old daughter has suffered from depression since high school. She takes a maintenance dose of medication. I suspect she may have to be on it all her life. Like many of you here, she has found that regular exercise helps a lot. But something she has tried recently also seems to help -- she uses one of those light boxes that are advised for people with SAD (seasonal affective disorder). We live in an area where we get very little sunshine in the winter months. This, and vitamin D deficiency, can make depression worse. She sits in front of it for 15-20 minutes every morning, basically while she is eating breakfast or studying. I don't know if it's the placebo effect or not, but she says it is helping. Also, keep in mind that some medications can affect your vitamin levels. I'm sure it's different depending on what medication you take. But maybe vitamin and/or fish oil supplementation is something worth checking out. Wishing you the best.Kiss

posted : 1/23/2012 at 9:55 AM

meneak74 member since Feb'12

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I have suffered from pretty severe depression and anxiety since I was 12. I was finally put on meds at age 19 when I started college. Didn't stick with that because I had no support and the meds were wrong. Because of my struggle, it took me 6 years to graduate with a 4 yr degree and I my fiance left me because he couldn't handle me anymore. Finally, after countless med ups and downs and changes and a hospitalization, I have now found the right 5 med combo (hoping to lower that to 3 within the next 6 months).

With that, there are still days when I just don't have the motivation to workout. I just can't. I can't explain it, there is just no doing for me on those days. I also experienced quite a bit of weight gain because of all these meds. But I am determinded. I am happy, truly happy, for the first time since I can remember and I am ready to do this. I think for me my own motivation and support from others is really what is going to make me or break me in this.

posted : 2/29/2012 at 6:55 AM

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jamicheals member since May'12

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I can relate to the postings on this subject. I have been battling depression most of my adult life and have been diagnosed with BiPolarism about 5 yrs ago. Depression is hard to deal with most days and next to impossible to explain to someone with no clue

posted : 5/30/2012 at 8:34 PM

David Rebstock member since May'12

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I am somewhat on the opposite side of the coin. I was put on meds for anxiety. They use the same drugs for anxiety as they do for depression because (apparently) it is the same chemical imbalances in the brain. I found that the drugs were what makes me lethargic and unmotivated. My Doctor has tried 3 different medicines and I find that Prozac affects me the least, but man there are some times where I still have no drive whatsoever.
What I find works for me is going to the gym directly after work. If I go home first, I get distracted by the internet, TV, my roommates, or if I am feeling motivated...chores. I just have to keep reminding myself about all the good things that come out of working out at the gym...especially on those days my brain is telling me "just go home and go to bed." Usually once I am AT the gym, all those feelings go away.

Best of luck to everyone,
Dave

posted : 6/7/2012 at 9:48 AM

Christina Joy Lane member since Aug'12

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I have struggled with depression for most of this year. I feel sad and alone all the time. I have been eating soo bad lately and I dont have any motivation to change it. Sad I feel so bad because I used to be a really happy person. And now I just feel angry and sad all the time. I don't want to go out and do anything and even if I do go out I feel like I am completely alone even if I am in a room with 100 people. Help. Worried

posted : 8/8/2012 at 12:47 PM

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