i am struggling and need help?

I have a huge problem losing weight and don't know what I am doing wrong or what I need to do. I am not good at working out or even know if I am doing it correctly. I may sound dumb but I have always been told there are no dumb questions. I was at 230 lbs and lost some and was doing good, but I have tried every diet and pill possible and just can't seem to lose. I also love food and eat when I am bored or down. I am at 214 now and I seem to go down two pounds but as soon as I eat I go back up. I have a treadmill at home that I try and use everyday. I try push ups but I am very weak. Sit ups I can only do about 10 before I can't do anymore. I don't have a lot of time as I have 3 kids a full time job and going to school full time. I don't feel good I feel fat and out of shape and don't have a lot of money. I'm starting to get my stomach trained so when I know I have ate to much to stop and I can feel when I do because I feel sick, but I continue to eat the wrong things. It seems like no matter what I do I can't lose weight and it has really gotten to me and I am depressed over it. Can anyone help with a exercise routine or something?? I am reaching out and that's a huge step for me. I have always been embarrassed. I weighed about 110 lbs until I hit 22 and had my second child and have just kep getting bigger.

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I struggled for years as well. I read a lot and tried a lot of things but I continued to make the choices that had gotten me to where I was. For me the biggest difference has been "going public." I started telling people I was doing it. Although I didn't do that immediately. I did, however, set up a personal support team of 5 people who I knew would love and encourage me but also show me grace when I messed up. They have been fantastic and when they don't hear from me for a few days one of them at least is checking in. Since then I've done a lot more publicly as well but that was my start. My lifestyle change included a lot of things including a gym membership, buying different food, and approaching everyday choices differently. I now park at the farthest parking spaces when I go to the store or restaurant instead of the closest. I shopped for different bread and meat to get lower calories and sodium. I changed from soda to water. It's just me but I buy lean cuisine pizza or weight watchers pizza to feed my pizza cravings. I also started keeping a food journal so I now know and regularly share with my coach what I eat - the good, the bad, and the really really bad. Those are some things that made a difference for me.

5 years ago

I just want to say you are doing a good job! It is hard to lose weight. You should look around on here, they have exercise videos and workout planners that might help you. You can make quick short workouts that are great when you don't have that much time. I find them to help me out a lot. I'm also very tapped on time. I work full time, 4 kids and a hobby farm with lots of animals to care for. But I still find that half hour to workout. I know you can do it just take small steps. You will be able to do more and more, it just takes time. Plus with losing weight I don't like looking at the scale. Have someone measure you. Measurements are better to look at than the scale, muscle weights more than fat. Remember you can do it!!Happy

5 years ago

I understand how you may be feeling a little down, but consider this; it doesn't matter what you can do or how many you do, It's WHAT you do! So what, if you are weak and can only do a few pushups or sit ups, that's better than none at all. Now please don't take this the wrong way, but don't use your childrean as an excuse for not being able to work out. Make them your REASON for doing so. You will be more active, have more energy and just be all-around fit. And oh how proud of you they will be when they see you making and hitting your goals. Include them in your efforts. They will be your biggest cheerleaders! Another thing to consider is (I have to tell myself this too) You didn't gain that weight all at once! You will not lose it all at once. So be patient and don't beat yourself up. You didn't say how old the children are. Are they old enough to sit and watch a video or tv show quietly for 30 minutes while you do some exercise? There or all sorts of videos and exercises that you can do here on ATH. Better yet, have them do it with you. Then you don't have to worry about keeping them occupied. You just GOT to reset your thinking. We are all here for you to support and encourage. Keep your chin up!!!

bayouladyred 960
5 years ago

Keep it going Raeann!
I totally agree with Eric! I was unhappy with my life and depressed about my weight. I had always been athletic and I gave up doing the things that made me happy. The 1st time I tried to lose weight (I had 45lbs then) I didn't tell anyone and I was unsuccessful. I felt miserable and gave up. That was 13 years ago. 2 Years ago I joined ATF and had 58 to lose to get to my desired weight and told everyone! Accountability was my best friend! I even added 10 more lbs to get the body I had when I was in my 20s. The support I received was amazing! SO many people will be on YOUR side!
You really need to monitor what you eat. I kept watch of the calories going in and the ones I burned. That was the key for me. Keep that food journal Eric mentioned and put in the calories. It really is a shocker at first. I did step on the scale but only 1x a week. My measurements was watching the sizes going down and needing to buy new clothes. In my opinion you should try and get to a gym and workout. Getting out is good for you. You meet people in the same boat as you and if you are lucky you'll have wonderful support from staff members that you can ask questions to and get advice from.
Use ATH for it's valuable information and support from others!
It is a long and difficult journey that you'll have some highs and lows but don't give up!

Jacqui Olsen 11k
5 years ago

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4/30/2012 at 11:45 AM
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